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I'm 18, just turned 18 last Saturday. My girlfriend is 17, turning 18 in June. Basically what the story is that, my girlfriend always worrys about how her mom will react about everything, it's always been like this, even the littiest things, I understand this is normal but she doesn't know how to exactly "live" without her mom, is there any advice I can get? I want her to be more independent, her mom is not a really good influence and I believe her mom manipulates her also. She trys to tell her I'm cheating on her, blah blah and we broke up for three months because of that. Any advice?
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Dude, if you love her you will do anything for her. Grab a good job and tell her to get one also, save up and when you get out of high-school find an apartment until then you should deal with it for the sake of your feelings towards her.
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You can't really change a person's emotions or their aspect on life. If she indeed believe every word her mom says then you just have to find a way to deal with it. Nothing comes out of it, if you just wait and want her to change according to your picture.
Find a job, show her your good side, show her mom your good side, even though she still might not approve it will help.
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All you can do is be there for her and show her you do care. Really that's the simple key to success. It may lead to further problems down the road, but in the long run it's best. Don't try to get her against her mother or anything either, as if she cares for her mother too.. it will just cause a big war when obviously one of you is in the wrong, and one isn't. Overall, your girlfriend will come around eventually. If she doesn't, make it clear to her before things diminished, that she made a big mistake.
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Show her your more responsible than she thinks, or be supportive with her mom, except when she's lying, you have to speak up for yourself in a nice way.
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My mother /hated/ my first boyfriend. She constantly would try to get me to go out and hang out with other guys, and tell me he's ugly and I deserved better etc. After awhile i started believing the things she was saying and i broke up with him. I think that she was worried that she was losing me, i was spending more time with him and i was really close to his family. But she's my mother lol, so i am going to listen to her. I think that you should try and butter her up. Invite her to dinners or send her gifts and go out with her and your girl. If the parents are happy, she'll be relieved and everything will be easier.